Long hair and the way it is.
Posted by Kevin C on January 30, 2001 at 21:24:53: Previous Next
I had long hair that I loved very much. I believe that I am what Bill calls a born long hair. Then the end of college came. The amount of pressure to cut it was insurmountable and I caved. That was a year ago. I still have short hair and it hurts.
People do not understand. There are not words or analogies to describe it to them. Often I am given weird looks when I show a passion to look the way I truly want. Some tell me that I have a choice, my answer to that is "How is short hair or unemployed an option?"
I want to grow it back. I am in an office environment where I am the youngest employee. They still wear ties, although none of the customers do, and they laugh when they see that we still do. I am in a cubicle for eight hours a day with little contact except for when I go get more coffee. No customer ever sees me, but I must wear a tie. Sometimes I think that I am the one who is making a big deal of it, and if I did it quietly no one would really care. But when it gets a bit shaggy I get glances at my hairline and a most uneasy feeling when I am called upon or given a review.
I want to try to grow my hair out again but I am afraid that someone will say something then there will be “The Choice”. It is one I cannot bear to make again. There are others in the office that would ally with me but they have no more power than I do.
I wrote to a local radio lawyer and he said that Missouri is an “at will” state so they would have a hard time firing me over hair, and to grow away. I asked the HR gal what that meant and she said that if they wanted to fire me that morning, they could just as I have the right to quit then too. How does this help me?! I can see perhaps how I could play as though the job is as important to me as they are making me feel, but I don’t know if I could keep a straight face, what with bills and all.
I have betrayed myself and the community of longhaired men that I represented for eight wonderful years. What is a guy to do?
Re: Long hair and the way it is.
Posted by cam on January 31, 2001 at 22:20:22:
In Reply to: Long hair and the way it is. posted by Kevin C on January 30, 2001 at 21:24:53:
You need to be honest with yourself and determine if you are happy with your job because you sound absolutely miserable at it. You talk about how you are in a cubicle 8 hours a day and that does not sound to fun. If you are happy with your job then I think that you should just let it grow. If they ask you to cut it you have to ask yourself do I absolutely need this job? If you do cut it and I would suggest looking for a job that is hair friendly. You are the same person when you have short hair and long hair. I know this society disagrees with that notion but they are wrong. I know how you feel because I was growing my hair out after I graduated from college from a buzz cut and I luckily landed a job. Good luck to you.
Gorgeous LongHaired Males....
Posted by DayDreeemzz on January 31, 2001 at 22:20:27:
In Reply to: Long hair and the way it is. posted by Kevin C on January 30, 2001 at 21:24:53:
More men should realize that scissors are NOT their friend and a lot of us women who love a man with that beautiful long flowing hair would be alot happier!!!!
Re: Gorgeous LongHaired Males....
Posted by viking on February 01, 2001 at 19:18:57:
In Reply to: Gorgeous LongHaired Males.... posted by DayDreeemzz on January 31, 2001 at 22:20:27:
: More men should realize that scissors are NOT their friend and a lot of us women who love a man with that beautiful long flowing hair would be alot happier!!!!
: Where are you women who love a man with that beautiful long flowing hair? I have YET to find one!!!!!!
Re: Long hair and the way it is.
Posted by James on February 01, 2001 at 00:32:54: Previous Next
In Reply to: Long hair and the way it is. posted by Kevin C on January 30, 2001 at 21:24:53:
Don't get shaggy. Get a trim and keep it neat. Let it grow gradually, and chances are the bosses, if they care, won't notice. Don't be unconventional in other ways. Wear the tie. It comes off at night. Do good work. Be pleasant and friendly. In a year, your hair will be long enough to tie back. If it gets difficult to control in between, consult a stylist, but make sure you state your goal of growing out your hair. Do it.