HELP!!!!!
Posted by Derrek on June 16, 2002 at 21:28:15: Previous Next
My mom is making me get my hair cut because she hates long hair. What should i do. I begged her for anything but she won't budge. help
Re: HELP!!!!!
Posted by Treyn on June 16, 2002 at 23:28:49: Previous Next
In Reply to: HELP!!!!! posted by Derrek on June 16, 2002 at 21:28:15:
Just let your mother know (very nicely without resorting to anger) that in order for you to be happy, you would like to have your hair the way you want it, not her way. Short hair is just not you, and that there are far worse things that you could be getting into like drugs, alcohol, etc. Long hair is just an expression of who you persive yourself to comfortably be, that if you can't have it that way life for you would be uncomfortable. Now would a mother want that for her child?
There are probably people on this board that could give you better advise, but I just thought I would try and help. Good Luck, Dude!!!
Re: Or...
Posted by I wish I had a beard on June 17, 2002 at 09:14:44: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: HELP!!!!! posted by Treyn on June 16, 2002 at 23:28:49:
A comprimise. You'll get it cut short as long as she does too.
Im lucky, Ive never had this kind of trouble. But surely she cant physically force you.
Re: Or...
Posted by t on June 18, 2002 at 02:19:32: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Or... posted by I wish I had a beard on June 17, 2002 at 09:14:44:
SHAVE HER HEAD IN HER SLEEP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Re: Or...
Posted by Treyn on June 18, 2002 at 17:57:27: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Or... posted by t on June 18, 2002 at 02:19:32:
: SHAVE HER HEAD IN HER SLEEP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Funny, dude! I about fell out of this deskchair laughing at that one, but it's not at all practical, man. This could be a young kid we're dealing with here who will listen to anything!! HA! HA! I still thought it was hilarious, though!!
Re: Or...
Posted by vul on June 26, 2002 at 00:35:45: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Or... posted by Treyn on June 18, 2002 at 17:57:27:
: : SHAVE HER HEAD IN HER SLEEP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
: Funny, dude! I about fell out of this deskchair laughing at that one, but it's not at all practical, man. This could be a young kid we're dealing with here who will listen to anything!! HA! HA! I still thought it was hilarious, though!!
Actually, I'd say that's a GOOD idea. While talking and discussing a problem is ideal, the guy said the damage has already been done. Obviously his mother isn't willing to discuss and compromise. When the enemy is not willing to discuss and compromise about a problem, you must fight back, or be walked upon. Wether the person in question is your parent or a stranger, action must be taken. Maybe I'm biased. I was blessed with a pretty good family. Knowing what it's like with good parents, I simply would not be able to tolerate such utter $#%^$#^%$#! pricks. I say fight back.
I didn't write that
Posted by T on June 20, 2002 at 02:57:57: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Or... posted by t on June 18, 2002 at 02:19:32:
I don't know if this person was not aware I go by "T" or if they were purposely using my nickname. I just wanted to clear the air.
That's good advice.
Posted by Baldie the Eagle on June 17, 2002 at 12:32:15: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: HELP!!!!! posted by Treyn on June 16, 2002 at 23:28:49:
Talk is better than scissors or fights (mental or physical).
Good luck!
Re: HELP!!!!!
Posted by S-17 on June 17, 2002 at 05:54:17: Previous Next
In Reply to: HELP!!!!! posted by Derrek on June 16, 2002 at 21:28:15:
That's good advice but if that doesn't work try and reach a mutual agreement (as a last resort) like what i have with my mum that if she gets pissed at it i just trim it a bit to make it look neater. She's now got used to me having long hair and soon i hope i can grow it to the length i want without her getting on my case.
Re: HELP!!!!!
Posted by 4everlong on June 17, 2002 at 07:05:06: Previous Next
In Reply to: HELP!!!!! posted by Derrek on June 16, 2002 at 21:28:15:
: My mom is making me get my hair cut because she hates long hair. What should i do. I begged her for anything but she won't budge. help
Ask your Mom what happened to the street of Equality. Is it only for the ladies ONLY? If women/girls can have their hair short or long, why can't a man/boy? I wonder what her answer will be. Please let me know.
Re: HELP!!!!!
Posted by Joe on June 17, 2002 at 10:51:40: Previous Next
In Reply to: HELP!!!!! posted by Derrek on June 16, 2002 at 21:28:15:
these kinda questions seem to come up alot around here.i found the best thing to do is talk to a guildance teacher at your school about how your mom is going to make you cut your hair and stuff like you just want to be yourself and not like anyone else at your school that is a guy get your mom in her/his office with a talk with the guildance teacher and if your mom still trys to make you get your haircut you can simply refuse to do so and hope your mom trys to take a swing at you or better yet takes out the clippers and trys to cutt off your hair. then just go straight back to the guidance teacher and tell them what happend and you will somehow or another have your long hair, maybe try thinking of another crazy idea to do it but thats all i could think of right now
Re: HELP!!!!!
Posted by Derrek on June 18, 2002 at 11:37:09: Previous Next
In Reply to: HELP!!!!! posted by Derrek on June 16, 2002 at 21:28:15:
: My mom is making me get my hair cut because she hates long hair. What should i do. I begged her for anything but she won't budge. help
Well, I am going to get kicked out of here because, She cut it. Thanks for the help but i didnt get to it in time.
Re: HELP!!!!!
Posted by RedRocker on June 18, 2002 at 23:38:06: Previous Next
In Reply to: HELP!!!!! posted by Derrek on June 16, 2002 at 21:28:15:
Well, unfortunately, if you're uder 18 and living under your parents roof -- you probably have no choice. It took a while, but my parents now accept my long hair and respect my wishes. Of course, I'm 35 -- so they have little say. Don't worry, it won't take your mom THAT long. Once they respect you as your own person you shouldn't have any problem.
Parents Suck
Posted by Nick on June 19, 2002 at 01:00:51: Previous Next
In Reply to: HELP!!!!! posted by Derrek on June 16, 2002 at 21:28:15:
My mom was going to make me cut my hair but due to the fact she cant drag me to a barber it hasnt happened yet. Still to this day she doesnt respect my decision to have long hair but it is 'me' and its not my fault she is closed minded about that. It is a crime for someone to cut your hair against your will, and I dont think parents should be ANY exception. If it were possible I would take action even against my parents. Thats how important it is to me.
Re: Parents Suck
Posted by Terry on June 24, 2002 at 01:20:12: Previous Next
In Reply to: Parents Suck posted by Nick on June 19, 2002 at 01:00:51:
The key to changing your mother's mind is first understanding her position. Ask you mother to write out all the reason for wanting you to have a haircut. You will then be able to take your time and address/answer each reason. That is the first step. You may wish to list some of those reason so we can respond to them.
You may do things now that make your mother very happy. If you tell you mother, for instance, that if you are forced to cut your hair you will no longer do certain things, your mother may reconsider. You may no longer talk unless spoken to. You may no longer speak to relatives or other family members except to answer specific questions. The list of changes you could make could be endless. Once your mother realizes that you will be a very different person if you have to cut your hair, your mother may not want to force you against your will.