respect
Posted by Lazerus on May 17, 2003 at 02:13:38: Previous Next
This is my first time posting, although I've read others posts off and on for a little over a year. Thanks for the support!
My question is:
Have any of you noticed a profound difference in the way that people treat you with long hair compared to short hair?
I’ve had short/medium length hair all of my life, up until this past year.
Personally, I think I’m more attractive with short/medium length hair. But I feel better having long hair.
With short hair, people tend to be disrespectful. When there is a problem, I'd really have to express anger/annoyance for the effect to come across. And even with great stress and tremendous effort, I would mostly be ignored. With short hair, being ignored by nearly everyone (strangers in public, clerks and waitresses, close friends) is the most noticeable problem. Overall respect is greatly diminished -- almost non existent with short hair.
With long hair (just shoulder length/bangs down past chin), people take notice, girls look at me with interest and without that stuck up attitude. People are nearly always respectable. More people talk to me and people are tremendously more kind and considerate. If I ever get annoyed, I barely have to show it for someone to take notice, and listen. Now, when I get mad (which isn’t very often), I’ve actually had people stop in their tracks and start to back up. But I don’t think it’s just a fear thing. Overall, people listen to me, show interest, and actually hear what I’m saying. People have told me I look more approachable with longer hair.
I have naturally curly/wavy hair.
On the negative side, I did notice that security personnel do tend to look at me more too. But no more than everyone else is.
The worst comments I’ve heard is someone mention in a very neutral quiet voice, “hair”, or “oh look, hair”, but that was more toward the end of the awkward stage.
If I had known I would have been treated this good, I’d have had long hair my whole life!
I’ve read posts about what people have said to those with long hair, but how differently are you treated?
How much more respect do you get with long hair?
Re: respect
Posted by RedRocker on May 17, 2003 at 05:03:48: Previous Next
In Reply to: respect posted by Lazerus on May 17, 2003 at 02:13:38:
Well, I live here in California and nobody seems to react at all (women like it though). Even the "rednecks" out here don't seem to have a problem with it. I find THAT a little surprising since I live in a "small" city of about 30 thousand.
At work -- no one cares. I can wear my hair down or in a 'tail. I usually wear it up, so that I don't burn it with my soldering iron, though.
There are many here that have long hair -- of course, nowhere near the amount of "shorthairs". I honestly can't think of any bad experiences or bad reactions here due to my long hair.
I have had women say "I never thought I'd be involved with a long-haired man". Of course; then they find out why we are so much better! (use your imagination).
Well, just my 2 cents worth.
Later.
Re: respect
Posted by T a r i k h on May 17, 2003 at 05:26:29: Previous Next
In Reply to: respect posted by Lazerus on May 17, 2003 at 02:13:38:
It depends.
When I had short hair, people just left me alone. But as my hair grew, so did the mockeries. Then I realise how my society was. A bunch of evil people who treat you differently according to your appearance. And what`s more, people who were complaining themselves about being discriminated because of their appearance, namely african people were the chiefs in mocking me. Aint that paradoxal?
Re: respect
Posted by george on May 17, 2003 at 08:35:35: Previous Next
In Reply to: respect posted by Lazerus on May 17, 2003 at 02:13:38:
i would LOVE to see a picture of you, i think i might have the same hair type. if you can, please post a picture.
thanks
: This is my first time posting, although I've read others posts off and on for a little over a year. Thanks for the support!
: My question is:
: Have any of you noticed a profound difference in the way that people treat you with long hair compared to short hair?
: I’ve had short/medium length hair all of my life, up until this past year.
: Personally, I think I’m more attractive with short/medium length hair. But I feel better having long hair.
: With short hair, people tend to be disrespectful. When there is a problem, I'd really have to express anger/annoyance for the effect to come across. And even with great stress and tremendous effort, I would mostly be ignored. With short hair, being ignored by nearly everyone (strangers in public, clerks and waitresses, close friends) is the most noticeable problem. Overall respect is greatly diminished -- almost non existent with short hair.
: With long hair (just shoulder length/bangs down past chin), people take notice, girls look at me with interest and without that stuck up attitude. People are nearly always respectable. More people talk to me and people are tremendously more kind and considerate. If I ever get annoyed, I barely have to show it for someone to take notice, and listen. Now, when I get mad (which isn’t very often), I’ve actually had people stop in their tracks and start to back up. But I don’t think it’s just a fear thing. Overall, people listen to me, show interest, and actually hear what I’m saying. People have told me I look more approachable with longer hair.
: I have naturally curly/wavy hair.
: On the negative side, I did notice that security personnel do tend to look at me more too. But no more than everyone else is.
: The worst comments I’ve heard is someone mention in a very neutral quiet voice, “hair”, or “oh look, hair”, but that was more toward the end of the awkward stage.
: If I had known I would have been treated this good, I’d have had long hair my whole life!
:
: I’ve read posts about what people have said to those with long hair, but how differently are you treated?
: How much more respect do you get with long hair?
YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD!
Posted by LucksKind on May 17, 2003 at 09:39:49: Previous Next
In Reply to: respect posted by Lazerus on May 17, 2003 at 02:13:38:
: This is my first time posting, although I've read others posts off and on for a little over a year. Thanks for the support!
: My question is:
: Have any of you noticed a profound difference in the way that people treat you with long hair compared to short hair?
: I’ve had short/medium length hair all of my life, up until this past year.
: "With short hair, being ignored by nearly everyone (strangers in
public, clerks and waitresses, close friends) is the most
noticeable problem."
: "With long hair, people take notice, girls look at me with
interest and without that stuck up attitude. People are nearly
always respectable. More people talk to me and people are
tremendously more kind and considerate.
Overall, people listen to me, show interest, and actually hear what I’m saying.
People have told me I look more approachable with longer hair."
MY EXPERIENCE EXACTLY!
Thanx for the post!
AMERICAN geography
Posted by Terrance on May 17, 2003 at 12:09:11: Previous Next
In Reply to: respect posted by Lazerus on May 17, 2003 at 02:13:38:
I have lived and worked all over the United States and here is my two cents, not just for hair length, but for tolerance in general:
The further you get away from the ocean, the more intolerant and stupid people become. It is tricky in the South....they are sometimes intolerant, yet quiet (polite) about it.
If you want to have long hair and be left alone.....live near the ocean.
wow...never thought about that...
Posted by LucksKind on May 17, 2003 at 12:59:53: Previous Next
In Reply to: AMERICAN geography posted by Terrance on May 17, 2003 at 12:09:11:
: "If you want to have long hair and be left alone.....live near the ocean."
I don't live too far from the ocean...