Question `bout love
Posted by T on May 29, 2003 at 10:34:46: Previous Next
Hi guys,
I know that this topic is not related to long hair, but I`ve been given good advice on this board. So I`d like to ask you the following thing:
When someone you love wanna just be friends, but still acts as if she was in love with you, what should I do?
You tell her that you love her, and she says she only wanna be friends, but she acts exactly as if she`s in love with you.
Thanx
Question `bout love
Posted by LucksKind on May 29, 2003 at 11:50:23: Previous Next
In Reply to: Question `bout love posted by T on May 29, 2003 at 10:34:46:
It means she's not SURE...
but is keeping her fishing line in the water anyway.
It also means there is still hope...
Good Luck!
Re: what is love anyway?
Posted by Hair Religion on May 29, 2003 at 12:29:02: Previous Next
In Reply to: Question `bout love posted by T on May 29, 2003 at 10:34:46:
Don't sweat it so much, you have many long years ahead of you to either get to know her or meet lots of other women, and just like having long hair you need to develope a longer term mindset so that everything doesn't need to be resolved now. Speed can wreck things with hasty decisions but over time things can be worked out in a much better way.
Maybe growing your hair long may help you develope this patience.
Re: what is love anyway?
Posted by ColdFlu on June 06, 2003 at 12:55:49: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: what is love anyway? posted by Hair Religion on May 29, 2003 at 12:29:02:
: Don't sweat it so much, you have many long years ahead of you to either get to know her or meet lots of other women, and just like having long hair you need to develope a longer term mindset so that everything doesn't need to be resolved now. Speed can wreck things with hasty decisions but over time things can be worked out in a much better way.
: Maybe growing your hair long may help you develope this patience.
"Maybe growing your hair long may help you develope this patience."
That is an awesome quote, I just love it man! I may steal and use this philosophy from time to time. I think Plato would be proud of you.
Re: Question `bout love
Posted by Treyn on May 29, 2003 at 12:44:58: Previous Next
In Reply to: Question `bout love posted by T on May 29, 2003 at 10:34:46:
The best thing you can do is just talk honestly with her about the way you feel about the situation. No beating around the bush, or avoiding the subject. Lay it out on the line with her in a mature fashion, and she will more than likely respect you for it and possibly start to see you in a different light. Tell her your true feelings and that you would like her to be honest about her true feelings. Tell her in nice way that if she really only wants to be friends then she needs to stop leading you on with it all. Honesty is always the best way to go, it will get you further in the long run. Good luck, bro. Peace!
Re: Question `bout love
Posted by Ronnie on May 29, 2003 at 16:19:55: Previous Next
In Reply to: Question `bout love posted by T on May 29, 2003 at 10:34:46:
Maybe Love is like hair it takes time to grow, so nurture it and let it grow on it's own.
Re: Question `bout love
Posted by T on May 30, 2003 at 09:18:50: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Question `bout love posted by Ronnie on May 29, 2003 at 16:19:55:
Are you Ronnie James Dio, by any chance?
Re: Question `bout love
Posted by Ronnie on May 30, 2003 at 14:08:46: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Question `bout love posted by T on May 30, 2003 at 09:18:50:
no just and ordinary guy, my friends call me Ronnie, and my one and only true love calls me Ronnie.
Re: Question `bout love
Posted by RedRocker on May 29, 2003 at 21:46:06: Previous Next
In Reply to: Question `bout love posted by T on May 29, 2003 at 10:34:46:
You didn't give much info, so I'll have to base my answer on what you provided (and personal experiences).
Any time a girl tells you that she wants to be "just friends", there's a reason. It means that she isn't attracted to you physically [for whatever reason]. This doesn't mean that she doesn't like you; just not in "that way".
She may be putting on this "in love" act for ulterior motives (i.e. to USE you). If she TRULY was in love with you, she wouldn't want to be "just friends". I suspect that she's playing a game with you; but really doesn't want to hurt your feelings. She IS leading you on, however.
You have already told her how you feel about her, but she doesn't feel the same way about you. You will be wasting your time if you try to pursue a [BF/GF] relationship with her. Don't do it! -- you'll be the one that gets hurt -- not her.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it's the truth. I've had four serious relationships in my life that lasted 4+ years each. I've had many other "not so serious (but fun)" relationships throughout the years. Please, take my advice. Look for someone who IS interested in a relationship -- she is not the one for you. This doesn't mean that you have to lose her as a friend, but I would be very wary of her true intentions for hanging around.
Do NOT play her game -- you'll be sorry (trust me on that!).
I wish you luck on your future pursuits.
Re: Question `bout love
Posted by T on June 02, 2003 at 04:06:33: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Question `bout love posted by RedRocker on May 29, 2003 at 21:46:06:
Hi man,
thnx for the advice. It was hard for me, but I did it. I told her and you were right. She was just using me, just like she used other guys. Shame on me for having fallen into her trap.
Re: Question `bout love
Posted by Medicine Horse on May 29, 2003 at 23:40:51: Previous Next
In Reply to: Question `bout love posted by T on May 29, 2003 at 10:34:46:
The right girl at the wrong time is still the wrong girl.
The world is full of wonderful ladies waiting for you to meet them.
Internet, Internet, Internet.
Get a disposable camera, ask friends to take your picture, develop to a disc, place an ad on one of the big Internet dating sites and get ready to meet ladies who ARE attracted to you.
I've found my love that way...and had a LOT of fun looking.
Widen your vision, enjoy the fruits of the Internet....and find a lady who does grow to love you.
Re: Question `bout love
Posted by ColdFlu on June 06, 2003 at 12:50:18: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Question `bout love posted by Medicine Horse on May 29, 2003 at 23:40:51:
: The right girl at the wrong time is still the wrong girl.
: The world is full of wonderful ladies waiting for you to meet them.
: Internet, Internet, Internet.
: Get a disposable camera, ask friends to take your picture, develop to a disc, place an ad on one of the big Internet dating sites and get ready to meet ladies who ARE attracted to you.
: I've found my love that way...and had a LOT of fun looking.
: Widen your vision, enjoy the fruits of the Internet....and find a lady who does grow to love you.
That is exactly how I found my wife. Isn't life grand :-)