Angry about hair, Need help, please
Posted by tommy turbo on August 20, 2002 at 20:13:47: Previous Next
As I have posted a few times before, I was blackmailed into cutting my butt length hair.
Basically My boss told me it was a managment thing and if I didn't I would be fired, I did, and have since been growing it back. It is past my shoulders now, and I cried my self to sleep so many nights after I was forced into cutting it.
I have found out recently that managment new nothing about it, nor encouraged it, but in an effort to support my boss told me that I had decieved them, and tried to put a guilt trip on me about it. That I must have missunderstood my boss. Basically tried to tell me it is all my fault.
Hell they hired me with long hair and new about it, how could I have decieved them?
Anyway It has made me very angery and Very bitter, I was never like this before, and have suffered from some minor depression since. Never felt this way ever before. I have gotten very angry at some coworkers that made some comments about it in passing, and kinda blew up at them.
Anyway I can't seem to let it go, and it has caused me not to be my self, and I worry that I will do something I regret. It has almost consumed me, I want vengence so bad on my boss for what happened.
What should I do, What will help? Please any suggestions would be good.
the LOWest of the LOW
Posted by LucksKind on August 20, 2002 at 20:42:24: Previous Next
In Reply to: Angry about hair, Need help, please posted by tommy turbo on August 20, 2002 at 20:13:47:
"It has almost consumed me, I want vengence so bad on my boss for what happened.
What should I do, What will help? Please any suggestions would be good."
Dirty Tricks! Don't ever be fooled again. Quit or
check with management 1st.
If I were you I'd feel angry and betrayed to the MAX but
acting on it will probably only make things WORSE.
Re: Angry about hair, Need help, please
Posted by Remi on August 20, 2002 at 20:43:28: Previous Next
In Reply to: Angry about hair, Need help, please posted by tommy turbo on August 20, 2002 at 20:13:47:
Start your own company and be the boss.
Re: Angry about hair, Need help, please
Posted by teknohippy on August 21, 2002 at 05:26:53: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Angry about hair, Need help, please posted by Remi on August 20, 2002 at 20:43:28:
: Start your own company and be the boss.
If everyone did that we'd all be working for one man companies! :-)
Be strong, don't let them get you down. Be who you want to be and bugger the lot of them. If they can't think outside of the "gotta be how the media tells us to be" status quo, then just sit back and feel superior to them, it'll help.
Re: Angry about hair, Need help, please
Posted by Baldie the Eagle on August 21, 2002 at 00:21:44: Previous Next
In Reply to: Angry about hair, Need help, please posted by tommy turbo on August 20, 2002 at 20:13:47:
Some suggestions.
See a doctor, and make sure that it is put on record that you are suffering from depression because of what you were made to do.
Grow your hair until it reaches the length it was before.
If at any time your bosses try the same trick again, threaten to sue them for compensation for the depression and everything else you have suffered as a result of their bullying. With luck, they won't dare risk it.
Good luck- you will have to wait a long time to regain what must have been wonderful hair. Calculate how long it will take you and start counting the days.
In the meantime, you could always look at the possibility of starting your own business, where you can order all the employees NOT to cut their hair, or preferably be completely tolerant of personal choices.
Go to HR
Posted by Rokker on August 21, 2002 at 08:53:54: Previous Next
In Reply to: Angry about hair, Need help, please posted by tommy turbo on August 20, 2002 at 20:13:47:
Nothing you can do about the hair except to let it grow.
I'd file a complaint with your HR department. Let them know that if they don't enforce some form of discipline, you'll go to government officials with a formal complaint.
In the meantime, just be patient and let it grow. And definitely see a counselor.