Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair
Posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 22:29:29: Previous Next
Now, before you say, "Break up with her", let me explain.
First, I'm knee-deep in the awkward stage, let me tell ya. My hair looks like crap right now because of that fact. My texture is curly/wavy, and it's quite unruly. It's layered considerably from my last haircut in July, 2002. Basically, it's a bird's nest right now, and my girlfriend is starting to hate it. Loathe it. But she still cares for me a great deal, just as much as before (when I had shorter hair). She believes (as do I) that I look much better with shorter hair, but I stated that I realize I look like unattractive at this stage in my hair growth. I personally just would like to try to grow out my hair, no matter how bad it may look at this current time. My girlfriend said earlier that this awkward stage has got much more worse over the last few months, and I may agree. But some things get worse before they get better, right?
Basically, I just have a desire for long hair, and she would like to see me have my shorter hair back. I suppose she simply didn't believe me when I said I wanted to grow my hair out long. Heh.
Alright, now I have a question.
To battle this awkward stage, is there any way I can style my hair so that it's not so difficult to endure? I have wavy/curly hair, and it's straighter at the top and curls at the ends. It's fine in texture, too. Does anyone have in tips? Like "scrunching"...? Although scrunching doesn't seem to hold very long with my hair. Maybe I just have bad hair like SixStringThing.
Don't worry, I'm going even think about giving up before it's long (12 inches minimum). My hair will surely look better when it's 12 inches, right?
Sorry for the long post, thanks for reading.
Re: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair
Posted by Aaron S. on June 18, 2003 at 22:43:56: Previous Next
In Reply to: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 22:29:29:
Don't do it man. Im around the same age as you (sophmore in high school). And one thing I know is that girl freinds will come and go at our age. If you cut your hair you might break up with her and then kick yourself for getting it cut. Also she should except you for who you are, not your looks. To me someone who only cares about things skin deep isn't worth my time.
You hair looks fine man :) keep growin and it'll pay off.
Re: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair
Posted by hBK on June 19, 2003 at 09:03:26: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair posted by Aaron S. on June 18, 2003 at 22:43:56:
Don't understand how these same girls who ask for haircuts are the ones who go stupid for those pretty boy models or celebs with the nice long hair.
Re: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair
Posted by Reflective on June 19, 2003 at 22:07:45: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair posted by hBK on June 19, 2003 at 09:03:26:
That's because the pretty boy models aren't in the awkward stage. Sometimes it takes a little encouragement to help people see beyond that difficult period.
Re: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair
Posted by John S. on June 18, 2003 at 22:51:26: Previous Next
In Reply to: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 22:29:29:
From personal experience, I am telling you that you will most certainly regreg cutting hair for a girl. I've done this and every day after that I've regretted it. Why? Because even though it did look temporarily "better" after I cut it during the awkward stage, she still didn't like me more and we lost relations soon afterward. Maybe this won't be your situation, who knows. I'm not telling you what to do. But beware that if you choose to cut, things can get worse, and would you really gamble your hair on someone else?
Take my word for it...
Posted by Treyn on June 18, 2003 at 22:59:59: Previous Next
In Reply to: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 22:29:29:
You have already stated that you want to know what it is like to have long hair. If you cut it now, I gaurantee you that you will regret it and at some point start all over again. I have been there more than I want to remember over the last 12 or 13 years. Keep going no matter how bad it tends to look. There are a lot of things a person can do to make hair look decent. Experiment. Whatever, but don't cut it after how far you have come along. I suggest letting your hair get down below shoulder length bangs and all, and if you like what you see, keep it. For yourself, not anyone else. I am betting that you will like it and want to grow it longer, because when hair gets to that length, it lays down nicely under its own weight and looks awesome no matter what hair type you have. Yours is more wavy than curly, so your hair will look great shoulder length and longer. Take my word for it, man, you might as well do it while your still young, cause it will be a never ending battle in your life if you just keep giving up on it because of the awkward stage. Hope this helps! Peace!
Re: Take my word for it...
Posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 23:03:01: Previous Next
In Reply to: Take my word for it... posted by Treyn on June 18, 2003 at 22:59:59:
Thanks, Treyn. My furthest goal that I have in mind is shoulder blade length. I think that'd be an awesome length, wouldn't you say?
By the way, how long were you planning to grow yours? Mid back? Should be awesome hair after chin length and more, for you. GOOD LUCK!
Awesome...
Posted by Treyn on June 18, 2003 at 23:09:32: Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Take my word for it... posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 23:03:01:
Shoulder blade length would look exceptional with your hair type. That is a really good target length/goal in my book. Go for it!
As far as for myself, I have said in the past that I plan on going terminal length (as far as it will grow) but a touch past middle back all the way around would probably be more managable for me rather than waist length. Who knows though. Like my mother used to always tell me: "We'll cross that bridge when we get to it."
PEACE!
Re: Awesome...
Posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 23:14:01: Previous Next
In Reply to: Awesome... posted by Treyn on June 18, 2003 at 23:09:32:
Cool, man. I personally can't wait for all of the awkward stagers to sport long hair. :)
Just to reitterate...
Posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 23:00:58: Previous Next
In Reply to: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 22:29:29:
Don't worry, guys. I'm not even going to get my hair trimmed for a LONG time. I've decided at least I'm going to wait until it is 11 to 12 inches in length in the front until I get a slight trim, which is about 10 months from now... which really doesn't seem that long of a time. :)
Another quick note...
Posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 23:12:42: Previous Next
In Reply to: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 22:29:29:
I was just thinking...
I noticed that I had my sides cut really short on my last hair cut. That means that my hair on my sides will get longer in length and turn into waves and lay down much nicer after they get about 3-4 inches longer (minimum).
Check this out.
Ok, here's a month after my last hair cut (July 15, 2002).
My short sides
And this is December's progress picture (front).
Curly/wavy fringe
I noticed that maybe my fringe (bangs) look much less curly now than they did back in December. The sides of my head hair are still curly, and I've figured out why... it's because they're much shorter in length! Duh. Maybe by the time my sides are 8 inches long they will begin to look less poofy, frizzy, and curly (compared to the rest of my hair).
I mean, just look how the back of my head of hair looks right now.
Recent progress picture (back shot)
Perhaps those curls that look out of place will turn into waves when it's all one length and long.
Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against curls, I just appreciate consistency with hair texture. I'll have to wait for the hair that I want, I suppose. :)
Again, no worries. I'm not cutting my hair. Not for anyone.
Re: Another quick note...
Posted by Will on June 19, 2003 at 12:18:41: Previous Next
In Reply to: Another quick note... posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 23:12:42:
I wouldnt ever call your hair curly, its not very wavy either! My hair is straight at back, curled ends at back, wavy sides, very wavy front and poofy all over! Be thankfull you dont have this problem, its a real killer!
Deplorable
Posted by Santiago on June 19, 2003 at 01:20:25: Previous Next
In Reply to: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 22:29:29:
It just pisses me off.
How can a person who "loves" you, be so selfish about what they want YOU to do with your HAIR, or your clothes, or your body. Women are generally very nice, we like them, and thus they control us. They have a secret(not so secret BTW) power to control men. They dress up their bf's, they blackmail and they make you feel bad if they don't get what they want. It exists at all levels, and no matter how much we like or love a woman we need to stand for ourselves. We generally don't tell them how to do their hair or what to wear, why can't they pay it back?
A friend recently cut his hair, got highlights and many other things just to please a girl that has been making him suffer since day 1... you really need to put things on a balance.
Agreed
Posted by Evil Milkman on June 19, 2003 at 08:11:33: Previous Next
In Reply to: Deplorable posted by Santiago on June 19, 2003 at 01:20:25:
I told her I wouldn't stand for it. I said I wouldn't cut my hair for anyone but myself (if I didn't don't like it later on when it's actually long).
I think partially she was just having a bad day and needed some sleep. ;)
Disagree--sort of
Posted by Robert on June 19, 2003 at 13:50:45: Previous Next
In Reply to: Agreed posted by Evil Milkman on June 19, 2003 at 08:11:33:
I agree that we must be ourselves, and those who simultaneously say I love you--but change yourself to please me are deplorable, sad and destructive.
I agree that women often do this to men, and men fall for it.
I disagree, though, that this is a one way street. Women wear makeup, and shave body hair, and try all manner of daily changing hairstyles and clothing styles in large part because men reject them without it.
Images of unmade up, hairy women do not drive the economics of capitalism. The image of the anorexic, multi colored, smooth skinned woman does, and it's largely men who own those corporations who sell their products with these images.
I have two daughters and a wife. I see what they struggle with.
It's a two way street, and its deplorable for all of us when we do this to each other.
Are we really read for everyone to really just be themselves? It's a tall order.
Robert
Re: Disagree--sort of
Posted by Santiago on June 19, 2003 at 14:12:43: Previous Next
In Reply to: Disagree--sort of posted by Robert on June 19, 2003 at 13:50:45:
Ok, women are subjet to pressure too. True, but also guys are subject to same amount... girls don't often fall for fat guys, and there is really a shallow scope on both sides, but I'd never blackmail my gf or drive her into something that would hurt her, just to please my wishes.
It would all be solved with more understanding
Re: Deplorable
Posted by Redleader on June 19, 2003 at 22:58:42: Previous Next
In Reply to: Deplorable posted by Santiago on June 19, 2003 at 01:20:25:
: How can a person who "loves" you, be so selfish about what they want YOU to do with your HAIR, or your clothes, or your body. Women are generally very nice, we like them, and thus they control us.
My current girlfriend is the first one that I have ever had that respects my hair and dress. Although I would never tell her, I cannot wait until my hair length exceeds hers. She gets regular cuts at shoulder length and it is wavy.
grls view
Posted by ticklemeelmo on June 21, 2003 at 10:51:58: Previous Next
In Reply to: Deplorable posted by Santiago on June 19, 2003 at 01:20:25:
i personally love long hair.
but i'm not gonna force my guy to do nething, i wouldnt want to. i hate women like that.
why the hell should i care wot a guy does with his hair, u either like him for who he is or not. simple as that
Re: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair
Posted by Paul on June 19, 2003 at 22:58:58: Previous Next
In Reply to: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 22:29:29:
To answer your question, try either styling it with a blow dryer on cool, that will pull out some of the wave and make it straighter if you brush it and give it a bit of a shape it will make it look like you are trying. What I notice most about all the young guys letting their hair grow is, they just don't do anything to it. Hence the sloppy look. Brush it out, keep it clean and use some products to hold a style. You'll get less comments and people willl know your trying to make it look good. The last picture looks greasy.Best of luck and don't give up
Paul
It doesnt always get better
Posted by TrevJ on June 19, 2003 at 22:59:18: Previous Next
In Reply to: Girlfriend Dislikes My Hair posted by Evil Milkman on June 18, 2003 at 22:29:29:
: Now, before you say, "Break up with her", let me explain.
: First, I'm knee-deep in the awkward stage, let me tell ya. My hair looks like crap right now because of that fact. My texture is curly/wavy, and it's quite unruly. It's layered considerably from my last haircut in July, 2002. Basically, it's a bird's nest right now, and my girlfriend is starting to hate it. Loathe it. But she still cares for me a great deal, just as much as before (when I had shorter hair). She believes (as do I) that I look much better with shorter hair, but I stated that I realize I look like unattractive at this stage in my hair growth. I personally just would like to try to grow out my hair, no matter how bad it may look at this current time. My girlfriend said earlier that this awkward stage has got much more worse over the last few months, and I may agree. But some things get worse before they get better, right?
: Basically, I just have a desire for long hair, and she would like to see me have my shorter hair back. I suppose she simply didn't believe me when I said I wanted to grow my hair out long. Heh.
: Alright, now I have a question.
: To battle this awkward stage, is there any way I can style my hair so that it's not so difficult to endure? I have wavy/curly hair, and it's straighter at the top and curls at the ends. It's fine in texture, too. Does anyone have in tips? Like "scrunching"...? Although scrunching doesn't seem to hold very long with my hair. Maybe I just have bad hair like SixStringThing.
: Don't worry, I'm going even think about giving up before it's long (12 inches minimum). My hair will surely look better when it's 12 inches, right?
: Sorry for the long post, thanks for reading.
hey i never post here but i will since you mentioned SixString (i know him) First off I also have really bad hair, ive been growing it for three years and i hate to tell you this but it doesn't always get better. Some of us just have really bad hair, it doesn't bother me since I don't have a g/f and dont care much. I went to school with Rob aka sixstringthing, he had kinda unruly hair (way nicer than mine though) but he was really into working out and body image and all that so it really bothered him & i remember after every class at school he would soak it in water which made it look really good but it was just too much work. he cut it at a year and a half and started getting alot more attention from girls and such which I won't lie, made me think about cutting mine but I didnt. Well anyway, it might get better it might not, it all comes down to you being able to deal with it or not.
