New Employer hair issue
Posted by Romez Webster on July 03, 2003 at 20:07:12: Previous Next
I would like to know how to go about convincing a new employer to allow me to keep my hair long. I wear it very neat he admits to that but he emphasizes this luxury hotel they have middle aged to older people who migth not buy into the style and although i will not be required to interact with them except for technical problems he thinks its best if i cut my hair. I am very open to any ideas of how to deal with this. Please ASAP, Thanks
Here's what I'd try...
Posted by LucksKind on July 03, 2003 at 20:21:13: Previous Next
In Reply to: New Employer hair issue posted by Romez Webster on July 03, 2003 at 20:07:12:
If you absolutely WANT this job but would like to KEEP you hair...
ask your new employer for a *trial* period...
then if he sees for himself that the middle aged to older people do
not really react negatively to your hair length, then maybe he will
reconsider and STOP projecting his thoughts onto other people!
Good Luck!
Very good angle, LucksKind! (n/t)
Posted by Treyn on July 03, 2003 at 21:30:55: Previous Next
In Reply to: Here's what I'd try... posted by LucksKind on July 03, 2003 at 20:21:13:
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Re: New Employer hair issue
Posted by kutava on July 03, 2003 at 21:15:45: Previous Next
In Reply to: New Employer hair issue posted by Romez Webster on July 03, 2003 at 20:07:12:
You might also try tying it up so it looks more conservative or at least less obvious (see the thread on "how to tie up hair").
Re: New Employer hair issue
Posted by Nyghtfall on July 03, 2003 at 22:56:30: Previous Next
In Reply to: New Employer hair issue posted by Romez Webster on July 03, 2003 at 20:07:12:
: I would like to know how to go about convincing a new employer to allow me to keep my hair long.
Ask to take a look at their dress code. If the length of a man's hair isn't mentioned anywhere, ask if he would be willing to reach a compromise. If he indicates, in anyway, that the length of your hair will be a deciding factor in their considering you for employment, then you'll have a decision to make as to whether this job would really suit your wants/needs.
Middle aged to older....???
Posted by White tail on July 04, 2003 at 07:47:30: Previous Next
In Reply to: New Employer hair issue posted by Romez Webster on July 03, 2003 at 20:07:12:
Guess which age group is now wearing their hair longer these days??
As a "middle aged to older person", I would rather see long hair on an employee than skin......
Re: Middle aged to older....???
Posted by elektros on July 08, 2003 at 02:02:09: Previous Next
In Reply to: Middle aged to older....??? posted by White tail on July 04, 2003 at 07:47:30:
: Guess which age group is now wearing their hair longer these days??
: As a "middle aged to older person", I would rather see long hair on an employee than skin......
I actually know one guy in his 70s who waited to retire before he grew his hair long!
Another friend of mine has long hair and is a grandfather. He doesn't have just one grandchild, either, but several by his various sons.
Many AARP members are guys with long hair.
I myself am 45 and definitely middle-aged.
Perceptions of what 'middle aged and older' people are like are out of date.
100 % of employers that want people who work for them to cut their hair are control freaks, although it's usually not wise to tell them that. You can remind them, though, that their target age group are the baby boomers, who either had or still have long hair.
Re: New Employer hair issue
Posted by Charles on July 05, 2003 at 00:29:39: Previous Next
In Reply to: New Employer hair issue posted by Romez Webster on July 03, 2003 at 20:07:12:
: I would like to know how to go about convincing a new employer to allow me to keep my hair long. I wear it very neat he admits to that but he emphasizes this luxury hotel they have middle aged to older people who migth not buy into the style and although i will not be required to interact with them except for technical problems he thinks its best if i cut my hair. I am very open to any ideas of how to deal with this. Please ASAP, Thanks
I'm 49 and I have long hair and would have absolutely no problem with you having long hair -- or maybe even stay at the hotel to support longhaired workers there.
Anyway, I guess this is one of those dilemas longhairs face when getting a job.
Question is, has the hotel hired you. From what you say, it seems like they have and your supervisor is urging (not ordering) you to cut your hair and if that's the case, is he giving you a choice?
You also mentioned that your job will be of a technical nature, in which case are they alternatives to working in this snotty hotel?
I guess it's a difficult decesion but all the best.
Charles
Re: New Employer hair issue
Posted by Mark Ellott on July 05, 2003 at 03:39:39: Previous Next
In Reply to: New Employer hair issue posted by Romez Webster on July 03, 2003 at 20:07:12:
So do they turn away long haired guests because they may offend the conservative middle aged peeps? At 45, I'm an older person (ugh!) and expect to be treated with the same consideration as anyone else, whether as a client or employee. I guess as an older person, I've learned assertiveness... ;-)
Re: New Employer hair issue
Posted by baldie the eagle on July 06, 2003 at 00:17:46: Previous Next
In Reply to: New Employer hair issue posted by Romez Webster on July 03, 2003 at 20:07:12:
I have found that there are many over 60s who like my hair. My mother in law who is 85 will regularly give lifts on motorways to any man with a ponytail, so there's no evidence that older people will react negatively to a longhaired man.
But you need to convince your new boss of that.
LucksKind's idea is a good one.
Re: New Employer hair issue
Posted by ColdFlu on July 07, 2003 at 06:30:14: Previous Next
In Reply to: New Employer hair issue posted by Romez Webster on July 03, 2003 at 20:07:12:
Sounds to me like your supervisor is making an assumption of what others might think of your hair, but really he is disguising his own feelings of your hair. Others on here already gave you GREAT advice for you to utilize. Good luck!