Growing my hair long

Growing my hair long
 Posted by SS on June 09, 2003 at 15:21:08: Previous Next

Hey everyone, my name is Steve, and I was a visitor to this forum for several months before I finally decided to post. Since last summer, I've wanted to grow my hair long. I had it in a buzz for a year before that (before the desire to grow it long) because I was lazy, tired of always having to mess with my hair in the mornings, but I soon got tired of that boring style because, well, I couldn't do anything with it. I graduated last summer and began growing it long then, but after returning from the beach and on a whim, I buzzed it all down. I felt like I really let myself down when that happened, and I hated my decision. Well, turns out I didn't have much of a choice, because in the fall, complications prevented me from going to college, so I "enrolled" into a job-placement program, and I was forced to keep my hair short. Well, after my search failed, I got out of the program and now I'm looking into colleges again (IT).

Anyways, I haven't cut my hair since January or February, and my bangs are long enough to where pushing them out of my face doesn't do much good (bottom-of-eyebrows length) for very long. I have a part on the left side of my head, and the hair kind of droops down on the right if I let it. Most of the time, I just run my fingers through it towards the top of my head and try to keep it up, and don't put gel or anything in it. As for the back of my head, the hair is getting thick around the ears, and I get these little "tail" things that stick out. It's awesome :). I've never had my hair this long before, and I love running my fingers through it, especially after a shower, or the opposite, when I haven't washed it in a day (my hair is really oily and feels cool when I don't wash it).

A few problems I'm having, though: My forehead seems to break out with acne alot, even though I try to keep my hair off it. Is there any way to prevent this, such as using Stridex pads every few hours, or will my forehead get used to the oily hair eventually (I notice the back of my neck rarely breaks out)? Another problem, those hair "tails" I was talking about earlier, they seem to naturally stick out on the right side, but on the left, I have to kind of push them out that way and they don't look as pronounced on that side. Will this change as the hair gets longer? Third, I wear glasses, and I'm wondering if this will be a problem when the hair gets longer, especially since the hair is oily (and might smudge the glasses).

My parents kept pressuring me to get a haircut, and after a few months of fighting them, I got fed up and went off on them. They seemed to have accepted my decision (my mom anyways) after I offered some logic about me as a "nonconformist individual", but once in a while my dad asks me if I want to get a haircut with him when he goes. My friends, I dunno what they would say if I told them. They frequently make fun of teachers and other men with long hair, and I always remain silent. One of the girls jokes around with one of my male friends whenever he lets his short hair go beyond "neat", and she says how "nasty" it looks. I'm aware that everyone has different opinions, and my friends wouldn't influence my decision, but do you think I should just tell them I'm growing it long, or let them figure it out? I haven't had a haircut in a long time, and I've waited much longer than ever before, but no one in my circle of friends seems to say anything about it. I'm wondering if all this negativity towards long hair is their indirect way of telling me to get it cut. Either way, my hair is growing long whether they like it or not, and they'll learn to accept my decision. I guess I shouldn't delay the inevitable and just tell them, huh?

Whenever my stiff-backed decision to grow my hair long falters, I only have to look at other men with long hair, such as Barry Watson from 7th Heaven (reruns), Amir Derakh of Orgy, or Hugh Jackman and his awesome new hairstyle. Also, I find nothing feminine or gay (it's all a false stereotype) about long hair, and having it doesn't make a person less of a man/person; in fact, I envy those guys who have already waited the long wait, and I find it really cool. I just have to worry about girl(friend)s asking me to cut it. I guess they'll have to accept it like everyone else.

Anyways, thanks for reading my post. Sorry if I rambled, but it made me feel better to get that out. I'm glad there are people who are kind/brave enough to start these "support group" type forums.

Later.




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